There’s a specific kind of frustration I hear from high-performing leaders, especially women in expanded-scope roles: You protect your team’s boundaries. You encourage them to log off. You model “reasonable hours.” And then you go home… and keep working. Not because you don’t believe in balance. Because your job includes a whole category of invisible work that doesn’t fit neatly into business hours—and no one has helped you name it, share it, or design support around it. Let’s talk about the...
26 days ago • 4 min read
Hey there, I've been thinking about what a client told me recently: "I just came out of three back-to-back stakeholder meetings and I feel like I said three completely different things. The leadership team wanted one story, finance wanted another, and my team needed something else. Did I just lie to everyone?" She hadn't lied. But she'd lost her anchor. This is the pattern I see in senior leaders all year—especially during the holiday pressure cooker. If this sounds familiar, let me show you...
3 months ago • 3 min read
Hey there, Last January, I sat down with my journal and made a list of leadership goals for the year. Stay laser-focused on what's working. Maintain healthy ambitions. Let "good enough" actually be good enough. You know what happened? I kept doing the exact same things I'd always done. Because I never actually stopped to ask myself: What am I doing now that worked before but isn't working anymore? That's the question I want to explore with you today. Alli What Got You Here Won't Get You...
4 months ago • 4 min read
In my first week in a new leadership role, I stayed late every single night. Not because there was a crisis or a deadline, but because leaving before everyone else felt wrong. My work was done, but people were still at their desks, so I stayed. After a few days, a colleague pulled me aside. Then my boss did the same. Both said some version of: “You don’t need to stay late every night. Go home.” That should have felt relieving. Instead, it felt… disorienting. I grew up on “first one in, last...
4 months ago • 4 min read
Hey there, There's a moment that happens in almost every coaching conversation when a leader realizes something about their own communication that changes everything. It's the moment they see the gap between what they meant to convey and what their team actually experienced. "Wait—that's how it's landing?" The patterns we develop to protect ourselves—to soften our presence, to avoid being seen as "difficult"—often create the opposite effect of what we intend. Here's the thing: your team isn't...
5 months ago • 4 min read
Reader, The higher I worked my way up through organizations, the closer I got to the C-suite, the more fearful I became of making mistakes. Everything felt more important. Bigger stakes. More eyes watching. More consequences if something went wrong. Here's the paradox: I had a close colleague who kept challenging me, asking whether what I was doing was really the best use of my time. Yet I found myself tightening my grip, not loosening it. I'd say yes to delegation in meetings, then find...
5 months ago • 3 min read
Hey there, A few weeks ago, I shared a story on LinkedIn about receiving feedback that completely caught me off guard. So many of you reached out saying, "This is exactly what I'm experiencing." So I want to dig deeper into what happened, what I learned, and what this might mean for your leadership journey. Alli When Feedback Stings Most, That's When You're Learning Last month, I received assessment results that rocked me. My immediate response wasn't curiosity. It was resistance. That can't...
6 months ago • 3 min read
Getting Clear on Your Values and Strengths. What lights you up at work? What do people come to you for? When you're grounded in your values, you stop second-guessing yourself and start leading with the confidence that comes from authentic alignment. Defining Your Vision. How do you want people to describe your leadership? What kind of impact do you want to have? Showing Up Consistently. Share your vision and values in meetings, conversations, and even the small moments. Show up authentically...
8 months ago • 2 min read
Standing Up for Justice Our world urgently needs leaders who stand for justice with conviction. That’s why I’m excited to share that I recently completed the Coaching for Social Justice program - a truly transformative experience, especially in these challenging times. One powerful takeaway from the program is this: just do something, even if it’s imperfect or messy, rather than remain silent or static in the face of injustice. The program provided a safe space to reflect on how I can...
10 months ago • 2 min read